One of the hallmark tenants of Christianity is forgiveness. Jesus teaches that when we follow him, that we are born again and forgiven for our sins. But in contemporary Christian culture, we seem to not understand that we are forgiven after we repent.
If a spouse says a cruel word to the other, than later approaches the other apologizes, and actually takes steps, such as walking away when angry and being more conscientious of their words. Then the apology/repentance is sincere. But let’s give the same problem, and than two days later they do it again, and again. Then they look at their spouse and say, listen, you know I can’t help myself so you’re going to have just deal with it and forgive me, because I’m not going to stop.
This is precisely how many so called Christians behave. They think that they can continue to do whatever they want, and God is just going to have to deal it. Jesus didn’t die to make you comfortable in sin, but save you from it. Romans 6:1-2 “What shall we say then? Are we to continue in sin that grace may abound? By no means! How can we who died to sin still live in it?” This needs to be read by more churches today. Like if my mortgage company gives me a grace period, that doesn’t mean that I don’t have to pay my bill. They are just giving me time to get it together so I can pay. But God, in the case of sin, is helping us get it together.
As long as we are breathing God’s grace never runs out. However, we are to repent and have a repentant heart. God is the judge, so he knows your heart. He know we won’t be perfect. But followers of Christ aren’t going keep doing the same things over and over and over, then say, “God knows I’m a mess, and I’m not going to stop.” There is no repentance. Repentance must precede forgiveness. 1 John 5:18 states this as well, that those born of God don’t keep on sinning.
Again, there is difference between a believer who is struggling with a sin, and is clinging to God for strength to overcome this issue. And they are repenting and working hard, seeking the Holy Spirit, and submitting to his instructions with a repentant heart. Compared to a person who says, I don’t care, I’m going to do what I want. In Matthew 7:21-23, Jesus plainly addresses these types of people.
With many churches shying away, from discussing sin, they are feeding this problem. We go to church, and the pastor is supposed to petition a God, to get a specific word to give his congregation. Sometimes, it’s going to be words of encouragement and some “self-help”. But, not every Sunday. Even those Sundays when God wants the pastor to give a word of encouragement, that also will include correcting people’s behavior. God isn’t the author of evil. And 99% of people except for like kids with cancer, have done something to cause their current problem. And is typically, something very specific God told us NOT to do.
But in 2019 America, the biggest issue is sexual sin, above all else. Even most professing Christians engage in unrepentant sexual sin. Those type of people, sorry folks, aren’t saved. They are following Satan. How can one get salvation if they refuse to repent? If sin is ok, then why did Jesus die? Being a Christian isn’t a title, it means you are a follower of Jesus Christ.
I say this out of love. Because so many are deceived. And the don’t judge wing of the church is helping Satan, and making people comfortable in sin. So they can keep doing it. When you follow Christ, the Holy Spirit will check you when you’re doing wrong, and you won’t feel comfortable. Some will actually suppress the Holy Spirit’s voice, so they can sin “comfortably“. Pastors who refuse to address the rampant sexual sin, and the don’t judge wing in many churches, are helping to suppress the voice of the Holy Spirit in people’s lives, and Satan is so proud.
From an Apologetic stand point, this just points to more evidence as to why Christianity makes sense. God is instructing us to be self-regulated, which maintains a peaceful and prosperous society. But, due to our fallen nature, he helps us achieve that, because we can’t do it on our own.
We as Christians must spread the Gospel, and to do that, we must speak about sin. There is difference between telling people to come as you are, and God will clean you up. Compared to do anything you want because God forgives you. It will cost people their souls, and there is nothing worse, than spending eternity separated from God.